Grief Can Cause
Stress in a Marriage
Day 169
The loss of a child can create stress in a martial
relationship. Choose to persevere and never to give up. Your loss may result in
a closer relationship with your spouse.
These three people worked through the emotional struggles
that caused tension in their marriage, only to come out better on the other
side.
Dora, speaking of her daughter’s death, says, “You’ll be
here at one point in your grief, and your spouse is over here and the two never
meet for months and months. Then all of a sudden when you do meet, you find
that you’re two different people. And you really have to work to get back on
that same level of communication. It’s real tough, but in many ways I feel like
my husband and I are bonded for life because of our suffering.”
Jeff, who lost his son, says, “I think it’s made our
relationship stronger. We communicated so well through the death of our son and
after. We’ve talked more in the last three years than we did in the previous
nine or ten.”
Teresa’s daughter died. She says, “When you do lash out,
because none of us are perfect, the other spouse has to be mature and say,
‘Well, come on, Sweetie, I know this may be an emotional time right now. I know
you didn’t mean that. I know we’re under a lot of emotional strain right now
and a lot of adversity, but let’s just pull this thing together,’ and just
immediately grab hands and start praying.”
Take courage from the testimonies of these couples and focus
on God. Even when you are both going in opposite directions, you will surely
meet if you keep your eyes on God’s plan for your life.
“For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and
be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh,’ So they are no
longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined, let man not separate” (Mark
10:7-9).
Lord, it is Your will
that my spouse and I remain together. Give me the strength to persevere. Now is
the time to begin. Amen.
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