There has to be something said when you lose all trust in the people that you intrust with your child. My child has been in a daycare for less than 4 weeks and I am to the point where I feel his safety is no longer guaranteed.
The first week of daycare (july 31st-aug 2) the teacher (ms. kris) made it a point to tell me that justice got scratched by her ring and it was only a little scratch and they both said it was an accident so i made mental note of it and we were fine. the next week, this same teacher made it a point to tell me that he once again got scratched and this time it was by her nail, but again an accident. this time it was a bleeding scratch. i asked justice and he said it was an accident. however, a scratch with a nail that leaves a wound and a scar that is still present on my child's hand doesn't seem very accidental. last week, justice got written up as did the teacher because he was outside on the playground by himself. the situation wasn't fully explained to me but i was told that he ran outside and that the licensing people just so happened to be around and they got written up for it and they would have to have an investigation about the incident. this was when justice started getting written up every day. suddenly my child was acting out, not listening and according to them, using profanity. now that i think about it, the day that the lady was in the facility doing her evaluation, there wasn't anything written up about justice that day. that was friday the 16th. friday night i dropped justice off to his father and got him back on saturday around noon. when i put justice in the tub i saw a bruise on his chest and i fully expected him to tell me that he was horse playing with his brothers and that's how he got the bruise. justice told me that ms. kris pinched him. i took pictures of the bruise and i asked him again how he got the bruise. he has been adamant that his teacher pinched him in the chest. monday morning i spoke with ms. yolanda and voiced my concern and told her what my child had told me. she wrote down something and told me that she would talk to ms. evelyn about it. justice told me that they asked him how he got the bruise and he told them that ms kris pinched him. they looked at what was left of the bruise and nothing more was said about it. when i went to pick up justice, the teacher asked to speak to me in her room alone. she told me that she was hurt that justice would say that and that she has been working in daycares since she was 16 and would never put her hands on a child. she also made it a point to mention that they have cameras and that she couldnt have possibly injured my child. i told her that i am his mother and when my child says that an adult put their hands on him, it is my duty and responsibility to bring it to the attention of the director so that this doesn't happen again. then she mentions that justice cussed that day. she said that he called someone a "coo coo bitch" and told someone to "sit their little ass down" ... they had me sign a paper stating that they told me that he did that. then yesterday when i addressed the director (ms evelyn) i asked her what was done because no one of authority had talked to me about the situation. i didn't know if the teacher had been addressed, i just knew that my child had been questioned and that he was looked at. this was concerning to me, because at this point i have yet to see that anything was written up or noted about the situation. yet again, the teacher said that justice got written up for saying "what the fuck". so suddenly it seems that my child has lost his mind and has terrets because how else could my child go from singing "my God is awesome" to spewing profanities. At this point, i don't feel that my child is safe in that environment and yesterday was his last day.
now, it isn't that simple by any means. i slept very little last night because i started to wonder why my child ran off from the group and ran outside by himself. being that he had been injured by this teacher twice, was he running away from her because she was going to injure him again? i can't say.
i took pictures of his bruise and i videoed him asking him of the incidents that occurred according to them during this short stay at this daycare. he told me that he did in fact pull a little boys hair and that he did run outside. but i believe my child when he said that she pinched him in his chest and i fully believe him when he says that they are lying on him and just trying to get him in trouble with the profanity. i find it very hard to believe that my child, who doesn't cuss at home or even when he is in the care of family or friends, uses the words that they are claiming.
as a mother is it my divine right to protect my child. it also is my duty as a mother to protect other children. so when i go to the daycare this morning to get his blanket and ask for my money back for the days that he won't be attending, i am also going to ask to see her incident report book where she should have noted that justice got scratched one week and then the next week. there should also be an incident or complaint report where a parent has complained about a child saying that harm was inflicted. at this point, if they cannot provide those documents, they need to put in place a system where they have it documented for licensing because any time a child has even a small scratch from another student, it should be written down in a book. this is the only way that they can cover themselves by acknowledging that something happened and that they made note of it.
it is very disheartening that my child was put in this situation and as a mother, it hurts me even more that i put him in that situation for two more days before deciding that i had no choice but to not take him where i can't be certain that he isn't being mistreated or abused.
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