Shared Identity
Day 120
You shared a one-flesh relationship. Your identities, your very beings, were interwoven with each other. When your spouse died, you lost a large part of your identity, leaving you unsure of who you are.
Marie, whose husband passed away, says, "It was like trying to discover who I was all over again. For so many years you're a wife and a mother, and now all of the sudden, I'm no longer ---'s wife. After being married seventeen years, I had to figure out, what do I do with my life now?"
In order to find yourself, you must first find the Lord Jesus. And if you already know the Lord, then just as He established your identity during your marriage, He will show you who you are now.
"I am the vine; you are the branches. If a man remains in me and I in him, he will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing. If anyone does not remain in me, he is like a branch that is thrown away and withers; such branches are picked up, thrown into the fire and burned" (John 15:5-6).
Lord, my life is an outgrowth of Yours. May I build my new identity on this strong foundation. Amen.
~ I haven't suffered this type of loss. I can imagine how rough it must be to suddenly be alone yet not alone. When surrounded by family and friends it still is a very quiet place being that you no longer get to have conversations with the very people that you woke up to talk to every morning. It is a longing for someone who made such joy and happiness in your heart and soul, yet you can survive without them. It hurts and no one can tell you or make you not feel any of it. It just is what it is. I miss having conversations with my mom and sister every single day. I saw my sister 5 days a week and talked to her throughout the day all days of the week. It was a different reality when suddenly I can't just pick up the phone and hear her laugh or have her cuss and fuss for me or at me. I miss that.
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